Apr 11, 2017
In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast I
welcome Nour Goda, founder and editor-in-chief of the Between Arabs
Project, which is a website and podcast that brings together Arabs
of all faiths and Muslims of all ethnicities to discuss social
issues that plague our communities.
What I like about Nour's work and that of her colleagues at the
Between Arabs Project, is its ability to take on difficult,
polarizing conversations on relevant issues in the Muslim community
in a constructive way.
Nour was gracious enough to invite me on her show soon after I
launched Becoming the Alpha Muslim, and we recorded one of her
best, if not the best, episodes.
So, it's high time I returned the favor.
- What are the essential differences between Western and Eastern
- The relationship between race and religious identity.
- The myth of freedom of religion in secular societies.
- What's changed for Muslims living in Trump's America?
- Trump as the continuation of endless imperialism and capitalist
- Better relationships with non-Muslims at the grass roots
- The Islamophobia/victimhood narrative and hate-crime hoaxes by
- "Breaking stereotypes" and "pushing boundaries."
- Neo-orientalist fetishization of the Muslim woman.
- Trump's recent airstrike on Syria
- The Muslim armchair quarterback - overnight PhDs in political
science and foreign policy
- Forget the politics for a second, are the innocent Muslims
- What's a more productive way for Muslims to channel their
outrage, instead of pontificating on social media?
- Intellectual empathy, the principle of charity, and
- Listen more than you speak, ask more questions than you give
- "Allah does not change the condition of a people until they
change that which is within themselves."
- WTF is Critical Race Theory?
- How race, power, and law work to maintain "white
- The apex fallacy - do homeless white people have white
- Is racial discrimination systemic or a reaction to life
- Racial stereotypes - Ego Trip's Big Book of Racism.
- Why should Muslims support Black Lives Matter (BLM?)
- Getting back to the agenda of civil rights.
- Opportunistic Muslim support of BLM not based on an Islamic
- A branding problem - the linguistic meaning of "black
lives matter" vs. "Black Lives Matter" the organization.
- The BLM organization, funded and led by radical liberals,
feminists, and homosexuals - "Herstory," promoting LGBTQ,
destroying the nuclear family.
- The communal obligation of Muslims to invite people to
- Secularism is not and has never been "live and let live."
- Black-on-Black crime - why doesn't BLM care about this?
- The subversion of movements for social change and the illusion
of political protest.
- Hotep vs. BLM - Hotep is a
movement of self-improvement, self-reliance, self-accountability,
and refusing to be victims. Shoutout to Uncle Hotep, @handymayhem on
- The two-pronged strategy of working to improve yourself and
working to improve the system.
- "You ain't ready to revolt against s***" - Killer Mike.
- Older Muslim women finding it difficult to get married.
- The marriage marketplace - men age like wine, women age like
- The Prophetic model of marriage.
- How Feminism is destroying Muslim women's ability to find a
- The practical considerations of male-female attraction are
human, not culture, and cannot be ignored.
- Recipe for disaster - expecting a religious Muslim man in his
20s who has little-to-no experience with the opposite sex to marry
an older woman.
- How some Muslim women are "settling" just so they can have kids
or marrying outside the faith.
- How "I'm a strong, independent Muslim woman who don't need no
man" is BS.
- "The Wall" - the point of no-return for a Muslim woman.
- What's wrong with marrying young? Don't make the halal so
difficult that Muslims are forced into haram.
- Marrying young needs enlightened, forward-thinking Muslim
- The current generation of Muslims is part of the global Islamic
- Nour Goda's own experience as a divorcee trying to get
- Marrying up - Nabeel Azeez's experience is not the norm.
- The late 20s and early 30s are the new mid-20s when it comes to
marriage in our times - education and parental pressure causing the
- Men and women with a "past" finding a partner willing to give
them a chance.
- Muslim women as victims of the sexualization of women in
- Religious, virgin Muslim men who have no game or social skills
with the opposite gender being brow-beating by the Muslim community
to marry women who have previous sexual experience.
- The nature of the male-female dynamic - how women's nature to
let men lead has been beaten out of them by Feminism.
- She wants to be your wife, not your mother - seduction,
passion, romance, etc.
- Men are not taught how to be men anymore - one of the
motivations behind Becoming the Alpha Muslim.
- Criticizing Feminism does not mean we are against women's
- Feminism has serious problems with respect to how it views men
- Masculinity is attractive and should be appreciated.
- P***y-whipped Muslim husbands are not a good look.
- An Alpha woman is a beta wife with the right man.
- Manosphere/Red-pill dating/relationship advice has a lot of
overlap with Islam - shoutout to Pat Stedman, friend of Becoming the
- The Between Arab Project's upcoming work.
- Live event at Connecticut College on April 14th, 2017 -
- Short hiatus from publishing new content for the past 4-5
months because of Nour's work commitments.
- More content will be published on the Between Arabs Youtube
channel - subscribe here.
- How Feminism enslaves, not liberates, women.
- Nour has written about this - Did Western.
- How work-life balance is important for women and stay-at-home
moms are looked down on.
- How Feminism and Capitalism work hand-in-hand - the Corporate
Overlords can't have 50% of the population not
- The paradox of female happiness - the more liberation and
equality women get, the more miserable they become.
- One-in-four women have mental health
issues and are on antidepressants.
- Feminism encourages women to act against their fitrah (natural
- Allah prescribed different roles and responsibilities for
men and women because as our Creator, He knows best how we ought to
live so we can be happy.
- Becoming the Alpha Muslim is not a misogynist website
- Encouragement and support from female readers who, like Nour,
have noticed the dysfunctional gender dynamics being promoted among
Western Muslim communities.
- This extended episode is a gift to my female readers, to thank
them for their support.
- On Western Muslims attempting to silence others and prevent
difficult, yet necessary, conversations from happening.
- How Nour/Between Arabs
Project and the Mad Mamluks podcast take
criticism from the community for associating with me.
- On intellectual honesty, open discussion, exposing yourselves
to ideas you disagree with or find offensive, and the spiritual
growth that happens as a result.
- Nour's journey through being an atheist and finding her way
back to Islam, and how her faith is much stronger than it ever was.
Related reading: Interview with an Ex-ex-Muslim.
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